Every year we celebrate the Women’s day we praise her different, roles that of a daughter, sister, friend, wife, daughter in law, mother and many more in the list. However the irony is that we just desire and love to see her being torn in different relations that constitutes her identity.
It is a common saying in the society, during the wedding of the girl that she is raw clay and can be molded as per your likings, but what about the likings of her parents or the principles and values that were instilled in her so far. You desire to turn her in a different person irrespective of the fact how well brought up she was. This can be compared to a situation that you have got a beautiful painting but rather appreciating the efforts and beauty of the painting, you desire to make changes in it and thus you ruin a beautiful painting. I am aware of the fact there are different set of rules for each house but rather changing her just add an additional frame to her. Be the support system for her. Then just like the magic color that changes merely by being touched witness the beautiful changes that she brings in herself to adapt the situation at your place.
We expect her to be available 24×7 for the services of in laws and their extended families but when her parents need her we are reluctant to send her. For once in life realize that they are her parents and she loves them as much as your son loves you. They also expect a bit of love and care in the 2 nd innings of their life. When a mother brings a new life in the world she has to bear the same pain be it a boy or girl. It is the malpractices in the society that brings the difference in perception and thus a boy is celebrated and girl is not.
The boy comes with the assurance that he will marry a girl who will take care of his parents in their old age. On the other hand the parents of a girl are sad because she will have been sent to other family were she may be ill treated and her rights and desire to visit her parents will be snatched. One of the major reasons that why female foeticide occurs is not because we love boys more than girls but because we are scared that if we do not have boys our old age will be miserable and lonely.
For once we need to think over the situation and let the girls also be there for her parents. And I would like to add why only daughters and not the son in laws. When the girl can take care of your parents whole heartedly why cannot you be there for her parents fulfilling the role of a son and supporting your wife during the rough times, the way she supported you during your struggle phase.
If you see the situation from the perspective of an outsider does not it anguish you to see the miserable condition of the women, whose different roles had been celebrated. Accept her in your family and not just expect her to be so and so. One moment you want her to be compassionate and caring towards your problems and immediately if her parents are going through the same situation you want her to be ignorant and overlook the situation. Even the computer that has been programmed follows the same solution for same problems and she as a human being who is not equal to computer in matters of decision-making, is expected to behave differently.
Let us truly take the pledge to celebrate womanhood and appreciate and support the different roles that she can play. Let her journey be a smooth one, do not tear her apart let her be a daughter and daughter in law at the same time.
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Wow very well written
Just loved it. Nice ??
I agree to each and everything you mentioned. there are a lot of changes required in the society.
This is a heartfelt post, holds so true to our conditioned society.
Let her be herself too! Let there be no label attached to her…
Wonderful insightful and thought provoking post!
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I just loved reading each sentiment you so beautifully penned of daughter and a moms relationship. I totally agree and can understand how a mom and daughter undergo in such situation. When Soceity puts barrier on lovey bonds.
Your write up title is so apt…daughter also.
Totally agree with your points. It’s time to change the perspective
thanks for sharing with us.
So true and very heart touching post. We make our own society . Every change starts first at home. 🙂
Very beautifully written, straight from the heart!
This was such a sweet heartfelt post, loved the compilation and also the pictures. Very well written!!!
Wow! This article is very well written. I totally agree with this, about our society.
It is only women who can help Women actually. From controlling women to understanding women… We have to make that change and enhance the quality of life for everyone around us.
Don’t know why, it feels like this post is coming from a place in your heart that is truly hurt over something. Girls cannot be expected to give up on their love and reaponsibility for their parents after getting married. Society needs to change its age-old perceptions.
Just amazing and touchy write up. Sometimes its hard to play many roles together for women. Still She manages all these wonderfully but all forgets that she is a daughter of her parents also. They also need her somewhere in life. And she also needs her parents sometimes too. Just loved reading your post.
I second you on celebrating the overall womanhood. very thoughtful post
Very well said. You highlighted something that we all know but hardly acknowledge.
True that women play a lot many roles in the world today..I am an ardent admirer of woman power
So well written and really very touching. Great post
Such heartwarming post. That’s the bitter reality of our society.
I totally agree to each and every point… Very well written
Oh wow such an amazing and eye opening post ? kudos to you for sharing this thought process
Absolutely agree your thoughts. Well written dear.
Agree with all the points you have mentioned. We are daughter first, then anything else.
such a beautiful post. Indeed women can don too many hats at one go and will ensure that she fulfills every responsibility beautifully.
Lovely writeup dear . I’m really love your different kinds of posts.
I really got into this post. I found it to be interesting and loaded with unique points of view.
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Respect to website author , some wonderful entropy.
So well worded! Only a girl can know the tryst of another girl !A lady’s duty is seldom appreciated. She has to listen to in laws, husband , extended family and at times even from her children. At times she even feels the loss of identity or individuality. Your blog is a true picture of a daughter in law living with in laws!
Well said …i read this very interestingly…change jn societies think is must..
Well written. I agree with you on every point. There should be a change in the perspective now.